Tuesday, February 19, 2013

When is it okay to be mad?


This is a serious question for me.  One of my biggest pet peeves is when people do not respect my time.  I hate when people cancel on me, no matter how good the reason.   And I mean that seriously. One time I was angry at my dad for missing out on plans we had because my sister broke her arm and had to go to the hospital.  Yes, I was nine at time, but the fact remains.
In the past week, several people cancelled on plans.  One of the biggest was my plans to attend “The Color Run.”  In this situation, I yelled until I realized that I was truly and unnecessarily hurting the person receiving.  Other times I ignore until the person understands that I am mad or I get over it myself. 
And when I get angry, I have problem letting things go.  It upsets me and weeks later I am still stewing in anger.  When you stew, when you choose not to forgive, you become less happy.  Although there are many exceptions, I have found that the less people you have grudges against, the happier you become.
On the other side, you must recognize that you should not let people push you are around.  If the person seriously wronged you, if the person is a bad influence, if the person takes without giving, then you should let them know that you do not like what they have done.  And although, I tend to let them know a little louder than is normal, I recommend keeping your composure and calmly taking them aside.
So, to summarize, love as much as possible but hold your ground until if it is important to you. 

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